让推荐模型更轻更快，同时处理超长用户行为序列。

Transformer-style architectures are increasingly adopted for industrial recommendation systems, yet they inherit a design premise misaligned with the task: generative models rely on per-token autoregressive prediction, which justifies maintaining large intermediate tensors that scale with sequence length. In contrast, recommendation systems produce a single set of relevance scores for each <user, item> pair without token-level supervision. Leveraging this observation, we propose SlimPer, which reformulates personalized ranking as iterative refinement of a compact, unified <user, item> knowledge base. At each layer, the model selectively queries raw multi-modal user-side tokens, computes explicit relevance matching scores, and refines the knowledge base, all in O(N) per-layer cost with a fixed-size intermediate representation. As a result, model depth is decoupled from user history length, enabling deeper relevance understanding without proportional growth in compute or memory; request-only optimization further trims memory by sharing a single copy of user-side tokens across all candidate items. SlimPer unifies sparse, dense, and sequence features within a single backbone and provides inherent interpretability through its attention mechanism. Deployed on Instagram Reels and Feed, SlimPer yields measurable improvements in user engagement while streamlining the overall system and enabling effective modeling of 10k+ fine-grained user history events.