通过筛选高风险偏好数据，避免大模型对齐时遗忘预训练能力。

Aligning large language models to human preferences is crucial for real-world deployment but frequently incurs an alignment tax, leading to the catastrophic forgetting of pre-trained general capabilities. While previous works primarily frame this problem as an optimization or architectural challenge, the inherent characteristics of preference data that drive this degradation remain largely underexplored. In this paper, we propose BALIGN, a balanced data selection strategy that explicitly mitigates catastrophic forgetting while optimizing alignment efficacy. Through theoretical and empirical analyses of the preference optimization gradient, we identify three key data-centric features that dictate parameter drift: the reference model's log-probability margin, the token length difference between chosen and rejected responses, and the TF-IDF similarity to general capability corpora. By aggregating these orthogonal features into a unified composite risk score, BALIGN systematically filters out high-risk preference samples that disrupt intrinsic model parameters or provide minimal alignment utility. Extensive experiments on standard human preference datasets demonstrate that BALIGN strongly preserves foundational capabilities without compromising alignment gains, consistently achieving the optimal Pareto frontier with minimal computational overhead.