用大模型推理蒸馏出小模型，快速适应电商实体匹配新规则。

In product entity resolution, relationship definitions constantly evolve with business needs, yet adapting to each change traditionally requires slow, costly human annotation that is often noisy and carries no reasoning. Large vision-language models (VLMs) prompted zero-shot can adapt to a new definition immediately and supply the reasoning that human labels lack, but their cost and latency are prohibitive at production scale. We present MERGED, a distillation framework that transfers not just labels but structured reasoning from large teacher VLMs into a compact 7B-parameter student, requiring no human annotation. Multiple teachers label each product pair and articulate the reasoning behind their decision: agreement pairs supply supervised fine-tuning, while disagreements are resolved by a meta-judge into preference pairs for Direct Preference Optimization. Evaluated against human-labeled ground truth on a multilingual e-commerce dataset, the resulting student improves PR-AUC by 13.79% over the same backbone trained on human labels and surpasses the larger Qwen2.5-32B-VL baseline by 6.32% at 6x lower cost, while also yielding tighter label-reasoning alignment (over 10% above Qwen2.5-32B-VL). Moreover, re-applying MERGED from an existing checkpoint adapts to a new relationship definition with only 10K samples, improving PR-AUC by 6.97% over zero-shot and outperforming from-scratch training. MERGED enables rapid adaptation to evolving relationship definitions, supporting a new one in days rather than months, at a cost and latency suitable for large-scale industrial deployment.